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What Do You Do When Your Kid Pukes in Public?

This is how she looked BEFORE our Starbucks adventure.
This is how she looked BEFORE our Starbucks adventure.

My 2-year-old and I had a messy start to our day. It was going to be very productive – groceries, painting supplies, and maybe even a little clothes shopping. We were all dressed and out the door at 8:30. She looked especially cute, too! We stopped at Starbucks first for coffee and juice…and didn’t make it any further.
While waiting on line, she chugged more than half of her juice. Just before it was our turn, she hurled. A lot. It remains to be seen why; I’m hoping she just drank her juice too fast.
I wasn’t completely freaked out, because this isn’t my first rodeo. My two major concerns were to take care of her and then do the right thing about the mess. It was too much to clean up with napkins, so I asked for a mop. And apologized, repeatedly.
The weirdest part was that the Starbucks employees and most of the people on line seemed to be horrified and just stood there, not eager to help with action or kind words. Then an unfortunate employee mopped it up, while his friends(?) made wisecracks.
There was one woman in front of me who really seemed to feel for me. She rushed to get me a stack of napkins and said, “I’ve been there! I hope your day goes a lot better.” Her empathy was greatly appreciated at that moment.
My little munchkin is no worse for the wear, so far. However, despite washing and cleaning everything it came in contact with, I still smell puke.
Please tell me I’m not the only one to experience a barf surprise in public! How did you handle it?

18 Month Old Not Talking

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I’ve been anticipating my daughter’s 18 month check-up, not because of the shots and tears, but for the developmental check list. Last time we were at the doctor, I said she wasn’t talking like her brother was at that age. She has about 15 words now. I was assured that it was classic for the second child; her brother does all the talking for her. This is absolutely true, she can’t possibly get a word in edgewise in this house. But now she’s 18 months old and it’s time for her to be speaking more for herself.

Here’s one of those times my training comes in handy, then goes right out the window. I know the developmental milestones she should be meeting, red flags that signal a problem, and where to find more information if I need it. But when I have a concern about my kids’ development, I can’t help but fluctuate between denial and irrational hysteria. That’s why I rely on my pediatrician and these check-ups. Our decision was that I would check in again in 3 months to see how much progress she has made. She should be picking up a new word a week, so we’re going to track her words and keep reading and talking to her.

Its important to identify a Speech-language delay as early as possible because early intervention is key and because speech delay may be a sign of a developmental disorder that needs to be addressed. The trouble is that children develop differently especially in the early years, so many “slow talkers” will catch up. Unfortunately, it’s hard to determine with certainty if a child is just a slow talker or a child with a speech-language delay. So, talk to your pediatrician if you have any concerns about your child’s speech and language development.

Check out the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association website for age guidelines.

Learn the signs of an autism spectrum disorder at Autism Speaks.

Turbo: Great for 5-year-old. Should I Have Brought My Toddler to the Movie?

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We took both kids to see turbo in the theater. It was another DreamWorks hit. Totally appropriate and fun for my 5 year old. I really can appreciate a movie with a message that we’re trying to teach him. In this case, it’s “Never give up!” Turbo follows his dream to win the Indy 500 despite the nay sayers who fail to support his endeavors, and his obvious limitation, being a snail.

We didnt go to the 3D show because we brought our 17 month old; I think it might mess with her eyes.  Note to self: research how 3D affects vision. Anyway, she sat through the movie on my husband’s lap. Exciting build-up of loud music and sound effects made her clingy in the beginning, but her eyes were peeled after that. I did feel like it was a waste of 96 minutes for her, but we’d never take our 5-year-old to a movie if we didn’t take her.

Were we wrong to bring our 17-month-old to a movie?

Don’t Compare Your Kids!

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. This is true for kids and adults of all ages.  And, on average, kids develop skills at different rates within the normal range. So, don’t compare your kids! See my personal revelation of hypocrisy below.

This topic is on my mind because I took my son to his third tennis lesson today and watched him struggle through one of his weaknesses: gross motor skills and coordination. He has always been a little slower at running and less coordinated than his peers, preventing him from having much success at sports. Meanwhile, this kid is really smart. He’s always been advanced, verbally.  He’s like the kind of smart that makes me worry he’s going to be embarrassed by his parents’ average intelligence. (This is a guess…I don’t actually know our IQs.)

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Then there’s our 17-month-old daughter, with seemingly opposite skills.  She can keep up with her brother like nobody’s business.  Her fine motor skills are so great, she even holds a crayon with the three-finger grip! She’s loving, clever, humorous, and empathetic. She just doesn’t speak. Alright, she babbles and says a few words, but verbally she’s way behind where her brother was at her age.

Determined to ride her brother's scooter.
Determined to ride her brother’s scooter.

Oops, I’m not supposed to compare my kids! And for good reason. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and until I find evidence that my son’s or daughter’s skills are falling outside the normal curve, I vow to step back and watch them use their strengths to overcome their weaknesses. Also, I don’t want to set up a self-fulfilling prophesy for them: He’s the smart one and she’s the athlete. They’re 5 and 17 months for goodness sake! Take home message: Don’t compare your kids; let them be who they will be!